The Universal Loving-Kindness exercise to me was a quick version of the Loving-kindness exercise, but missing a step. As I did the Universal Loving-kindness I felt peaceful, but not the love that can be felt doing the loving-kindness alone. If I was going to suggest this to anyone I would tell them to make sure they have some mastery with the loving-kindness alone so that when they try to free others from suffering and give them health, happiness and wholeness they can feel more complete themselves. I just believe it would be more complete.
Now to the fun apart assessing myself. Nothing I like because I know there are areas that I need to work on and I am not ignoring them, I just don't want to deal with them right now. Then I have to ask myself, " if not know when?" When my world is aligned, yeah like that is going to happen with out inter healing. For now I believe my biggest focus should be on nutrition and exercise. My body is starting to say hey, take care of me. In the process of taking care of my mother-in-law I have gained almost 20 pounds. We tend to eat what she wants because she doesn't like a lot of the healthy choices my husband and I are trying to make. I will be moved out by March 5th and I am so ready to start this. The other area that need a lot of work is community, personal. I am not sure exactly what that it falls under, I believe a bit of both. I do not have a lot of friends and I do not get out with any one, but my husband and my mother-in law. I feel that I need girl friends to spend the day with. I love to scrapbook and I have not done it in 3 years, save a night putting together something for my sons wedding. I had a lot of fun that night with my sister and my other sons girlfriend putting that together, I really miss it. So that is where I want to spend my time focusing on to gain a wholeness, and feel happy and healthy.
Hi Debbie,
ReplyDeleteI wish you well on your road to adding special friends to spend time with. The right people can provide you with a profound amount of support when needed. If we lived close I would truly love to spend time scrap booking with you. I am not good at that creative type of stuff and frankly get really frustrated with trying to come up with some nice ways to present photos.
I would like to provide you any type of support you might need in making more nutritionally sound selections. Please let me know how I can help you achieve this desire, just email me through class. I would love to help in any way you feel I can help you, no questions asked. Just let me know how to support you.
I agrees that it might be easiest for people to master the loving kindness activity alone before attempting this one from unit 6.
Have a lovely week, Candii
Thank you If I can think of a way you can help I will let you know
DeleteHi Debbie,
ReplyDeleteLet me tell you, I do not have friends either. I do have some aquaintences but I do not have any girlfriends I do feel I am missing out some times. DO not get me wrong I love my husband and my kids with all of my heart, but it would be nice to have a friend I can go out with. I wish you the best in finding your happiness, it sounds like you have had a hard time with a mother in law around, and let me say that doesn't seem like a nice way to enjoy life. You sound like you need so quiet meditation or a stiff drink. Where do you live? Well have a great one and take care.
Sara
I too love my husband and boys. I hate to say they are not enough, but sometimes it is nice to get out with girls/women. I live in Washington state...in a couple of weeks I will live between Tacoma and Bremerton
DeleteHi Debbie,
ReplyDeleteI am not so much of an outgoing person either. I am very selective when I make friends. I tend to be friends with people I have common things to share with. I think it's great to have friends but if it's hard trying to network or finding the time, what I found that was helpful was trying to find hobbies that will interest me and relax or distress my life. Friends will eventually come in your life as you find these different hobbies to do. Good luck in your life and I am sure you will do well.
Debbie,
ReplyDeleteThis is great. We all have areas we unintentionally ignore. We just have to find time to look into taking care of ourselves wholly and not in pieces. You will find your way with more practice, we all will eventually.